For the last 25 years, The Grandest Love has been the focus of my life and work, researching and lecturing about grandparenting issues, facilitating support groups, and developing community-based programs that allow intergenerational bonds to flourish. Along the way I’ve listened intently to hundreds of people’s stories–grandparents’ stories brimming with that special love but often too with a fair amount of conflict and confusion.

Despite the fact that these grandparents were a diverse group, their concerns were startlingly similar, such as the following:

How can I play an active role in nurturing my grandchildren when I’ve had a less-than-ideal relationship with one–or both–of their parents? How too can we all learn to respect each other’s boundaries, across the generations?

  • “How do I stay connected to grandchildren who live hundreds of miles away or with ones who live nearby, but whose days are filled with back-to-back activities?”
  • “With all the stresses and distractions of modern life, and in difficult economic times, how can we as a family unit be truly supportive of each other, enrich each other’s lives, and create lasting memories?”
  • “What is my personal legacy to this family? And what can I do to make an impact, to impart something of value, while I’m still around?”

Sound familiar? These are the challenges and hopes that most of us share., but what’s on your mind? What questions do you have?